Growing up in my younger days my dream was to fall in love with the first
person I thought was for me. Silly me to think that can actually happen,
especially in today’s age. As women we love to be taken care, thought after,
and forever loved for. However, things don't always work out how we want them to.
"We as women have to understand to love somebody we must first love ourselves."
That means to learn how to be alone for a very long time, it’s not a bad thing it’s actually very rejuvenating. I didn’t understand that phrase for a long time, heard it from my parents, mentors and random people but it didn’t stick to me until I started dating. I was so devoted to giving my all to guys just in return to get used in all aspects of dating which is absolutely not ok. I know us women in today's age have this picture that we should be in a relationship or married at a certain age, putting a future picture doesn't work out like it's supposed to. I had this stigma that in order for me to feel like a women or feel like a queen is me being with a man regardless of my personal issues. I want to put this topic on the table because theres no such thing with finding love, there's no such with looking for your soulmate.
Finding love comes from finding yourself first. From highs to lows finding yourself is the most important objective. All of your loved ones can tell you that but to tell yourself that is the biggest gift. After plenty of mess-ups, I took time to strictly think about having a better version of myself every day, focusing on school, and saving money. Doing everyday activities by yourself helps A LOT like going to the movies, getting dinner, writing in your journal, working out by yourself. Anything you can think of that you do with a group or one individual take time to do those activities by yourself. Those actions you can find things that you didn't know about yourself, things that you like and dislike. This world is beautiful and to take time out of your busy day to be zen with yourself and look around you and your surroundings is a very peaceful feeling. I am not perfect and one thing i am continuously learning is that you can't predict the future. This stage in my life i am lucky and blessed to find someone who really cherishes me and treats me like a queen. To get to this point i feel like i wouldn't be here telling you ladies this if i wasn't right within myself. Letting a person enter your life to see you for you and nothing else is very special. I can say at the age of 25 I’ve learned a lot about myself, one thing I can take away from living so far is always taking your strides day by day and never be influenced by somebody else or what they’re doing. Go for what you want but know everything in life at its best comes naturally.
With Love,
My Highview
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