Yes I said it, I’ve been called #SIR. It’s crazy to think I actually have to talk about this. I’ve been in some pretty weird situations, for most of the time I’m by myself. Anytime I’m with my friends in public it never happens weird right lol. I'm usually at public places, like the restaurant picking up food or the mall. I think when people see me in person they feel like I’m automatically a man because woman in today’s society only come in one shape or size (assumption). In addition to that I think a big influence would be what people see on tv and social media. The illusion that being lady like or considered “normal” is being a certain height. Being in those type of scenarios aren’t fun at all, kind of disappointing actually. Being called sir is a serious and touchy subject. At one point in my life I felt like I did look like a man because of the most recent interactions with the public. Back in the day I used to correct women and men that called me sir. Lately the last couple years I backed off because you simply become mentally tired to tell an adult when they are wrong. In some cases, people apologize because they figured out they were extremely wrong for the comment or some don’t and you see them become tense and awkward with you.
Growing up mentally mature over the years I realized that sometimes when people make a mistake it’s best to keep quiet and just observe the next move. Back in the day I was all for the RA-RA stuff yelling and wasting my time just to figure out I looked like the bad guy in the situation. I’ve grown to learn that people even strangers in your life will have to figure out for themselves that they messed up. Being a tall woman in this world isn’t always easy but tall women get to receive this type of knowledge to reflect. One day teach your kids to deal with similar situations to come. For my #highviewers that I can help now, one thing I can say is that always think before you say something. If you feel like what you’re about to say might make the situation worse or out of hand then simply move on. I had to sit back mentally in my head and have a self-talk on how I was carrying myself for the world to see. From then, things shifted mentally and any time after that I let things go. Some days i do have my days where i get irritated and say something but what can i say i'm human and i'm far from perfect. I just try everyday to put my best foot forward with reality. Recently I haven’t had any encounters with being called sir which is good LOL, however if it does happen anytime soon I’m well prepared. I wake up every day thinking I experienced it all being above average in this world and then one random day something new and weird happens. It’s all one big rollercoaster, constant up and downs but if somebody asked me right now would I trade my height for something else I would say “absolutely not”. God gave me this height for a purpose and I’m still on my rollercoaster trying to figure out, it’s been a scary one but I’m honestly enjoying every minute of it .
With Love,
My Highview
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